Addiction denial - the family also needs help - Milestones Recovery Series. Addiction denial -- the addict and the family all need help
In a new series of video interviews that chronicle leaders and developments in the addiction recovery world presented by Milestones Ranch Malibu Treatment Center, Patrick Wanis PhD interviews Pat Moomey, an interventionist and life coach (with 28 years experience intervening to help people and families suffering from addiction), about how an intervention works and how she reaches families and individuals by incorporating a tough and compassionate approach. Pat Moomey reveals how she convinces people (who are in denial) that they need help; sometimes a family member has a greater problem than the addict; longer treatment programs are creating more success.
Insight: Watch what Pat Moomey says about the entire family being in denial -- not just the addict -- and that treatment centers are becoming more ethical
Drug & Alcohol Intervention and Life Coaching by Pat Moomey: http://www.patmoomey.com/
Drug and alcohol rehab treatment center -- Milestones Ranch Malibu: http://www.milestonesranch.com/
Patrick: You have a wonderful history with the Salvation Army and as an interventionist. Tell us about your work with the Salvation Army.
Pat: Well I went to the Salvation Army when interventions were kind of getting less and less because the treatment centers were closing down, the hospitals were closed down when managed care came in and I wasn't doing a lot of interventions and I went down to the Salvation Army thinking that possibly I had something to help them with as far as classes were concerned, because I'd done a lot of extensive training on families, systemic work, and so forth. So when I got there and met the people that were running it, I just knew that it was some place I needed to be. The element of people who come in are very wounded and they've been thrown to the curb and it's like their last chance, or the judge will say this is a nudge from the judge, last chance or you go off to prison. And I found it to be very challenging and very exciting. So I was there for seven-and-a-half years, spent a great deal of time working with families, and the overall Salvation Army in itself really wants to help people with addictions, people with family problems, people with poverty, and so I really got hooked into that and I just loved it.
Patrick: What is an interventionist?
Pat: An interventionist is a person who helps a family to identify a problem and to identify if a problem is bad enough to bring a professional in, so that the person can look at whether or not they have a problem. And there's a lot of denial in families with addictions.
Patrick: When you say denial within the families you mean it's not just the person that has the problem that's in denial, it's the entire family?
Pat: The entire family and in fact the entire family probably has more denial than the actual person who's addicted.
Patrick: Why is that?
Pat: Because they don't want to believe that someone that they have watched daily or weekly, let's say if it's a child, for instance, they see them growing up, they don't want to see that there's a problem. They want to fix it. They want to have it go away. They want something simple to happen and when it doesn't then they call on someone professionally to help them out.
Patrick: So someone picks up the phone and calls someone such as yourself and says Pat, we need an intervention here. What do you do then?
Pat: Well I do personally about a two-and-a-half hour assessment to find out if what they're telling me is really something I want to walk into. Sometimes there's domestic violence, sometimes it's more serious, there might be child abuse, there could be a whole number of dynamics that I wouldn't do an intervention with. If it is some type of addiction—alcohol, drugs, sex, gambling—then I will do the assessment and find out whether the family is willing to be cooperative with what my expectations are and then I'll go and meet with the family and do some education and help them to understand what the result is going to be, and the entire family needs to get help, so I usually tell them, you need to go to Al-Anon meetings, you need to go to codependency meetings until we meet, so that you can also have a support group because it's important everybody have a support group.
Patrick: So real intervention is not what we often think, which is here comes an expert interventionist, such as yourself, who's basically going to convince that individual you have a problem, go get help. You're actually saying, I come to the family and say, You all need help. You have the biggest problem, but you're all part of the problem.
Pat: Right. And the alcoholic doesn't always have the biggest problem. It could be one person in the family who has the bigger problem because they won't let go of the other person and let them go out and do what they need to do in order to find out that they have a problem.
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